Couples Therapy in Berlin with Andrew G. Marshall

Identify and work with the issues stopping your relationship from flourishing. 

Andrew G. Marshall is a renowned marital therapist and author of many books on relationship issues. Andrew offers therapy sessions for couples in English from his Berlin office.

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Therapy with Andrew

When a marriage or relationship hits a crisis what you do next really matters. Finding the right help is critical. 

I am Andrew G. Marshall, a native English-speaking marital therapist in Berlin with over thirty-five years’ experience.

I am the author of 22 self-help titles on relationships. The best-known is I Love You but I’m Not in Love with You which has sold over 100,000 copies and has been translated into 15 languages. 

The German edition is called Ich Liebe Dich Noch, Aber.

My specialities include falling out of love and recovery from affairs. 

I am particularly experienced in the problem of being an ex-pat and the impact on your relationship.

I offer weekly sessions for couples or individuals (who wish to reflect on their relationship) at Badensche Strasse 32, Berlin 10715. It is close to Berliner Strasse U-Bahn station.

I offer communications training for couples and individuals in collaboration with Smart Bildungswerk.

I also have a new podcast called The Meaningful Life with Andrew G Marshall where I interview leading therapists from around the world.

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“Andrew has navigated us through the journey of understanding the affair and equipped us with new skills and knowledge. Thank you so much. You have saved our marriage.”

What approach do you take?

I trained with Relate (the UK’s largest couple counselling charity) and have a Diploma in Marital & Couple Counselling Theory & Practice.

I practice a combination of Psychodynamic and Systemic approaches. Psycho-dynamic looks at the influence of your first childhood relationships with your parents and their impact on all subsequent relationships.

Meanwhile, Systemic is focused on the here and now and engages the therapist and the clients as a team looking at how the relationship could be changed and improved today.

In addition, there are some ideas from Brief Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy and Mindfulness. 

I call my approach the ‘Marshall Method’ as it is a combination of approaches.

In practice this means I am interested in the underlying issues from the past that caused your relationship problems but focus mainly on improving the situation today.

I have lots of exercises and techniques for improving communication between you and your partner, as demonstrated in this video.

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Video: The Art of Good Communication – Reflective Listening

“Myself, my husband, and children have a huge amount to be grateful for that Andrew came into our lives. I feel personally blessed to have discovered Andrew’s books, and had the opportunity to have had life-enhancing therapy work with him.”

Microdates to keep that romantic glow all year long

As featured on the MailOnline website, February 2022

Andrew shares tips on how to keep the romance alive year-round, by using moments of lost time to reconnect, to ‘micro date’

  • UK marital specialist shares tips on how to keep the romance alive year-round
  • He says that you can use moments of lost time to reconnect, to ‘micro date’
  • When date nights can be expensive, time-consuming, stressful and one partner doing all the work, this can resentment can breed and cause further problems

“Andrew is navigating us through the many phases of reconnecting with each other in a deeper, respectful and rich way. He has guided us into becoming overall better people, which has gone to the benefit of the other person too.”

My best piece of advice

If there is just one concept that you took away from working with me, it would be how to negotiate effectively (rather than give up trying or manipulate or dominate each other).

I sum up good negotiating in a simple maxim – I can ask, you can say no and we can negotiate.

Unfortunately lots of people are brought up not to ask. My mother used to say “I want doesn’t get”. We are also frightened to ask in case we are refused. So we drop hints and think “if you really loved me, you would know”.

How comfortable are you with saying “no”? Are you frightened that your partner will not love you if you refuse him or her? Do you worry that if you say “no, I don’t want a back massage” that it will not be heard as “I don’t want one today’ but as “I don’t like back rubs and I don’t ever want one”.

How good are you at negotiating? If you parents argued like cat and dog or all the conflict was underground in your family, it will be an alien concept.

What I find over and over again is couples give up far too soon on negotiating. They can’t bear a few moments of disagreement – because it makes them uncomfortable – and they either demand (“I never get what I want” or “can’t you do this one little thing for me”) or back down too soon (“Anything for a quiet life”). It solves the problem for about five minutes but sets up another round of rows.

Don’t worry if your arguing turns nasty or you give up too soon, I have lots of games we can play that will help you open up and find new ways of doing things.

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Advice for ex-pats

Moving to Berlin has deepened my relationship but it has also thrown up all sorts of issues. I’ve met other couples – while out walking our dog – making similar adjustments from living abroad:

  • How does being an ex-pat impact on your relationship?
  • What’s it like to keep moving from one country to another because of you or your partner’s job?
  • What are the expat relationship problems?

I explore the above issues in an article on my website – there you will find plenty of help and advice for couples looking to rebuild and improve their relationships.

The article covers:

  • Three positives for an expat relationship
  • Five expat relationship problems I see in my therapy office
  • Two scenarios which need extra care
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“My husband and I arrived at Andrew’s counselling in crisis after an affair. Full of resolve to make our marriage work but with very little idea of how to navigate the pain and few skills to manage the future. Andrew provided empathy and expertise in equal measure. Deeply understanding our situation and guided as through with care and wisdom. Thank you Andrew for saving my marriage and my mind and gifting us with skills for the future.”

Frequently Asked Questions

Please contact the Practice Manager (via the contact form) for further information on fees.

I work on a standard therapy hour which is fifty minutes with the rest of the time used for practical matters (for example upcoming holidays etc).

This varies from person to person and it depends on the complexity of the issues and how deep you want to look but I will give a rough idea at the initial assessment consultation. I generally see couples for twelve sessions and individuals for six. My aim is to provide as many sessions as your circumstances require. Throughout the counselling process, I am happy to discuss your progress and give estimates of how many more sessions are needed.

I am a native English speaker with basic German. I therefore work professionally only in English.

The address of Andrew’s Practice is:

Badensche Strasse 32, 10715 Berlin. The practice is on the second floor – Left.

The nearest U Bahn station is Berliner Strasse which is two or three minutes away. There is also plenty of parking nearby.

I do not usually work over Skype but my team at Marshall Method Therapy do.

Using my 30 years of experience as a relationship counsellor, I work with couples to find out what is holding back the relationship and then we explore agreed issues together.

An important part of which is often communication. Counselling isn’t a magic answer but it can bring insights and tools to help a couple work through issues that enables them both and the relationship to flourish.

Couples therapy works best if both people come to therapy with an open mind and a degree of trust in the process.

Having counselled well over 2,000 people I will have seen most situations and I am very likely to be able to help you and your relationship.

No. The purpose of therapy is to help each person grow in their understanding of themselves and their partner and so make the right decision for them and their relationship. However, great understanding of each other and better communication can open up new possibilities. 

No. Very often partners come with different objectives. In therapy we explore these objectives by bringing insight and looking for common ground. I start with improving communication, so you can understand if the differences are as large as first thought. We then look at what needs to change and whether there is enough common ground to continue.

I combine Psychodynamic and Systemic approaches with influence from Brief Dynamic Interpersonal Therapy and Mindfulness.

This means that:

  1. We believe that relationships run into problems because of poor communication but that good relationship skills can be taught.
  2. We concentrate more on solving current problems than understanding what went wrong. (However, if you are dealing with infidelity an important part of the recovery will be to understand why the affair happened).
  3. Unlike some therapists who answer a question with another question, we believe that we’re all working together as a team to improve your relationships and therefore are happy to answer questions and be as transparent as possible.
  4. Our approach is solutions-focused.

A number of couples come back some months later to do some more work. This is often on a particular aspect of their relationship. Sometimes these couples will work with me on Skype.

Please use my contact form to register. Tricia, the Practice Manager, will endeavour to respond by email as soon as possible and let you know when there is likely to be an initial assessment with me. I am busy and there can be a wait to see me but I will try to prioritise you if your situation is urgent.

I also run a podcast The Meaningful Life with Andrew G. Marshall. Find out more about my books here.


Our policy is to ask for 48 hours notice if you need to cancel or change an appointment.

“We have just completed  therapy sessions with Andrew. We were both apprehensive initially and nervous, but the experience has been tremendously uplifting. We have learnt so much about each other, rediscovered our strong love and commitment to each other, but also faced up to some really challenging situations and behaviours.”

Enquiry Form

Meeting with Andrew in Berlin for an assessment consultation will help identify and work with the issues stopping your relationship from flourishing.

To book, or for more information about counselling with Andrew, please complete this form.

Time prevents Andrew from being able to enter into email responses to relationship issues but his range of books offer a lot of helpful advice.

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